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Don’t let fear lead to anger, because that leads to…well, you probably know the rest. (James Pond on Unsplash)
Happy May 4th, also known by some fans as Star Wars Day!
Maybe some of you have been spending some time in a galaxy far, far away to escape the constant drumbeat of Covid-19 news. Or, perhaps you’ve had a bad feeling about this whole pandemic situation and you’re looking for advice on managing some difficult emotions.
Let’s talk through a few classic Star Wars scenes and see how we can improve our own emotional intelligence.
Episode I: Trust Your Gut
Ever had a hire you just didn’t feel good about? Maybe you sat on a panel and had some misgivings about the candidate, but got overruled or persuaded by other members of the team? Yoda can relate.
In the first Star Wars episode (actually the fourth film produced), the ancient Jedi master didn’t think training young Anakin Skywalker was a good idea. And I’m not sure we needed Force powers to know why. Still, Yoda was convinced by Obi-Wan Kenobi’s persistence and, well, fans know how that turned out.
The lesson: Trust your instincts! Those gut feelings actually come from your brain, according to physician and entrepreneur Dr. Brady Salcido. They are “an instinctual response from your brain to protect you from making what it perceives to be the wrong decision.”
“Your brain creates a mental map based on every experience that you’ve ever had and everything you have ever learned to create the foundation for which your brain makes decisions,” he adds.
So, the next time you have a bad feeling about a decision, don’t be afraid to say your gut told you so.
Episode VI: Practise Empathy
Our triumphant hero stands victorious over his enemy. With one final blow of his lightsaber, Luke Skywalker can defeat the evil Darth Vader and…well, we never find out what he would have done next because, instead, Luke tosses away his weapon. In his opponent’s weakest moment, Luke shows empathy.
In that moment, Luke didn’t see an evil monster: he saw what he could have — or possibly was even about to — become. He saw someone whose good motivations had been manipulated to the point of (almost) no return.
The lesson: There’s a story behind every situation. Anakin, the man who would become Vader, was ostracized by his peers. He kept secrets and ultimately confided in the wrong person who controlled him through his shame and brokenness. As media theorist Douglas Rushoff explains in a 2019 TED blog, “teams should be based on common hopes, needs, strengths and vulnerabilities” rather than shame.
Is your workplace an open space where employees can share freely? Or do you reward those who have “no issues” and keep their problems to themselves?
Episode VIII: I Flew Halfway Across The Galaxy For This?
At the conclusion of Episode VII, the Force-sensitive scavenger-turned-resistance fighter Rey finds Master Skywalker, holds out his lightsaber to him, and prepares to ask him for help.
At the beginning of Episode VIII, Luke takes the lightsaber, tosses it over his shoulder and walks past a stunned Rey. She spends much of the rest of the movie trying to convince him to train her and rejoin the fight against evil.
When we talk about employee engagement, we use terms like actively and passively engaged or disengaged. When employees are passively engaged, they may be sitting on the sidelines and giving minimal effort — like Luke in this case. He’s not sabotaging their enterprise, but he’s not helping it, either. Luke checks off most of the boxes on this list of employee disengagement signs.
At first, Rey tries to force him to help. When that doesn’t work, she switches tactics and, eventually, convinces him to open up a little bit. She listens to his story about how he got to where he was. Spoiler alert: Luke ends up saving the day again by the end of the movie.
The lesson: No one comes to work wanting to do a bad job. Luke had, like many top performers, become quietly disengaged because he no longer believed in the work he was doing. It took someone else asking some questions and helping him to think through who he was and what he was doing for him to regain his senses.
If you or a teammate are experiencing something similar, this article might help.
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Until next time, may the Force be with you. Always.